Dear Loco, the process of cutting the metaphorical umbilical cord. There are, apparently, 3 stages:

  1. Declaring: You let other persons (your parents) know that you have autonomy and agency and seek to express it in so and so way. Boundaries.
    “I do declare, I would like to be my own person”
  2. Separating: You separate. Duh!
    Something akin to finding your own cave and starting your own fires. Basically, removing all behaviours that signify enmeshment. There is no negotiation here.
  3. Reconnecting: Redefine the space of co-existence.

It’s a bit of a dark, damp cave but it’s mine, it seems. All mine.

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